My confession: I mourned.
Most parents these days have a love-hate relationship with technology.
We watched a documentary the other night that shared that the stimulation from a game lights up the same areas of the brain as crack cocaine. Not good.
I watch as my son calls his 75 year-old grandmother on FaceTime and she joins his Roblox world where they play video games together, talking and laughing even though they are physically located thousands of miles apart. (Just a side note here, I think it is radically cool that my mom is playing Roblox with her grandson. #NotYourTypicalGrandma). Very good.
My son is an only child. I can’t tell him to go outside and play with his brother. Having been an only child myself, I found enjoyment in books back in the dark ages when Atari and Nintendo were the latest tech inventions. And, I’ll admit, I had some pretty stellar pretend friends until I was six.
Yet, when my son is banned from the iPad, he and I both go into a bit of a swirl wondering what to fill that new-found time with. Historically, filling open time involves me.
Does my willingness to support his tech-friend make me a bad parent? Maybe.
What it made me realize last night is that I’m not yet a bad parent, but I can be a more conscious parent. I can access the thousands of resources available on (yep, you guessed it) technology to find alternative activities.
I’ve taken the easy way out too long.
And, if my pals reading this ever want a cute and respectful 8-year-old to come over and play, he’d choose a friend over the iPad any day.
In that fact, I find hope that I haven’t ruined him…yet.
*If you’re willing to share your go-to sites, ideas for non-tech activities, and helpful hints, I’d be forever grateful.